Have you ever contemplated fighting back against the demons holding you up and causing troubles in your life? Have you ever considered using them as a source of strength?

Have you ever encountered a woman who has been envious of you and who, at that moment, criticizes you for being who you are, and you choose to take it as a constructive criticism rather than taking it personally.

Have you tried to improve yourself or have you worked to change the negative or improper behavior you possess?

RECOGNIZING NARCISSISM IN A DIFFERENT CONTEXT OR PERSPECTIVE

To truly understand narcissism may not be an easy task. How could someone so arrogant and conceited could become an angel?

Referring to narcissism, where a person is so preoccupied with their own needs and wants that they start damaging themselves and other people in the process.

However, is it conceivable that this could help narcissism gain some positive momentum?

REJECT NARCISSISM AND EMBRACE HEALTHY NARCISSISM

The definition of healthy narcissism is a strong sense of self that is in line with the larger good. Though it is not exactly the same, healthy narcissism is related to and differs from self-worth. Enjoying one’s attractiveness is it.

If someone approaches me and asks what I define as healthy narcissism, I would respond that it is positive narcissism that includes self-worth and self-love in the proper proportion, which not only benefits the individual but also has the power to motivate others to love themselves for the greater good.

“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” —Rupi Kaur

DO YOU FIND THE TOXIC TRAITS OF NARCISSISM IN HEALTHY NARCISSISM?

 We are all aware of how troublesome narcissistic individuals can be due to their grandiosity and insensitive demeanor, but healthy narcissists differ in that they share many of the same traits as normal narcissists, such as self-confidence, but their self-love and self-centeredness poses no threat to others.

WHERE THIS TERM DID CAME FROM?

Paul Federn was the first to use the term “healthy narcissism,” which rose to prominence in the 1970s thanks to the work of Heinz Kohut and Otto Kernberg.  It steadily emerged from the psychoanalytic tradition and gained popularity in the latter half of the 20th century. 

CONCEPT OF HEALTHY NARCISSISM

Self-aggrandizement and the pursuit of achievement are the origins of the idea of healthy narcissism, which was originally introduced in clinical psychology.

Did you find this concept to be intriguing?

WHERE IS THE PIVOTAL MOMENT WHICH CAUSED IT TO BE ON THE BETTER SIDE?

Let’s explore human psychology. I am aware that it is both extremely complicated and really fascinating.

Narcissism is an ingrained trait in people, according to Sigmund Freud.

There is a sense of self-glorification in every human being on the planet.

The most challenging aspect, though, is the potential for narcissism to go too far and ruin one’s overall personality.

However, he referred to this instinct for self-preservation as a positive quality known as healthy primary narcissism if it drives one’s desire and energy to survive.

CHILDREN DEVELOPMENT AND NARCISSISM

Psychological child development begins around the age of two. Numerous studies have found that a child’s emotional growth at a young age has a significant impact on the kind of adult they will become in the future.

In that regard, characteristic development is also taken into consideration.

For instance, if a youngster is taught to share food and toys with other kids, he or she will develop into a kind and helpful person. Heinz Kohut was the first to come up with the idea of healthy narcissism. He used the terms “normal narcissism” and “normal narcissistic entitlement” to explain how children’s minds grow.  According to Kohut’s studies, if a person’s basic narcissistic demands are addressed, they can progress to a “mature kind of positive self-esteem; self-confidence” or healthy narcissism.

DISTINCTIVE FEATURES OF HEALTHY NARCISSISM

• Strong sense of self.
• Sensitivity to others’ needs and empathy.
• True self-perception.
• Regard for and love for oneself.
• The fortitude to endure criticism from others while retaining an optimistic view of oneself.
• The ability to achieve one’s hopes and dreams and to develop and pursue goals.
• Emotional toughness.
• Healthy self- and accomplishment-confidence
• The capacity for admiration and admiration.

NARCISSISM AS AN IMMUNE SYSTEM OF OUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS

The natural immunity alternates between a sense of security in the presence of the familiar and awareness and susceptibility when meeting an unfamiliar person. When a child is young, the familiar is alluring and the unfamiliar—whether it comes from within (sickness) or the outside—is unacceptable (otherness). Thus, narcissistic immunization could be compared to the biological immune system’s recognition of the cell’s known protein and rejection of the unfamiliar protein (bacteria, virus). 

When a toddler gets older, he or she develops a natural mechanism for recognizing familiar faces and their owners. However, every person has a unique personality that sets them apart from those around them. This demonstrates a strong sense of self. It is inevitable that people will be injured, even by their close friends and family. Successful narcissists acknowledge and accept their otherness while valuing themselves as an individual. With the narcissism they have inside of them, they gracefully move on from the grief and pain. The restoration of the self’s stability, coherence, integrity, and vitality as well as the relationship with the other, despite their otherness, are both made possible by healthy narcissism, which also activates the immune system.

“No matter how far life pushes you down, no matter how much you hurt, you can always bounce back.”

ARE WE SUPPOSED TO HAVE NARCISSISM IN OUR PERSONALITIES?

Each and every person has to have a healthy dose of narcissism. Healthy narcissism would lead you on a road of self-enlightenment where a person regards themselves with dignity and confidence, turning them into people who prioritize themselves and also sympathize with others. While unhealthy narcissism may make you into a dangerous person. This narcissism is the kind that makes people successful in life rather than the kind that is constrictive.

     SIGNIFICANCE OF HEALTHY         NARCISSISM IN A PERSON’S LIFE

A number of factors make healthy narcissism crucial: You will be able to go through difficult circumstances if you can feel exuberant joy in yourself. For instance, if a person is able to experience narcissistic pleasure from a challenging task effectively completed, it can help them get through periods of frustration and failure and reduce the risk of burnout. Similarly, reveling in one’s attractiveness and beneficial influence on others can help one maintain their strength in the face of disappointment and sadness.

POWERFUL TOOLS OF A HEALTHY NARCISSIST

1. Self-conscious

Narcissists who are in good health exude a calm, relaxed confidence. Both their strengths and their weaknesses are acknowledged, and they see both as necessary for their overall well-being. They don’t expect to be or intend to be perfect since they are aware that they are not. People with healthy egos do not feel tempted to compare themselves to others and instead see themselves as learners who are always improving. Due to their high degrees of self-awareness, they have expectations that are reasonable given their skills. They have confidence in their own set of principles and values to live by and are fully conscious of their “separateness” from others.

2. Gains acceptance

People with mature narcissism don’t behave in an entitled manner. They are aware that they must work hard to achieve the levels of achievement they aspire to. A person with healthy narcissism will believe that failure or disappointment has less to do with their aptitude, genius, or talent and more to do with the need to put in more effort or pursue additional education. 

3. Work together

Those with a strong feeling of self-assurance are able to meet their wants without demeaning other people. Healthy egos enable people to develop and enter into relationships that are mutually rewarding because they have conscious, balanced perceptions of reciprocity. The demands, opinions, or pressures of others do not cause people to lose themselves. They keep their sense of self and don’t see the point in “one-up-man ship” or “one-down-man ship” when evaluating themselves against others. 

4. Reputable

The highest type of treatment, according to those with healthy narcissism, is “respect.” They respect ideas and viewpoints that are very dissimilar from their own and even ones they may not agree with. Healthy egos prevent people from approaching business in a binary, right or wrong way. When it comes to agreement, there are almost always ambiguous areas, and people with healthy narcissism may stick to their convictions without disdaining those of others. Additionally, people of this type appreciate everyone, including the CEO of their business and the driver of a car service. They arrive at work prepared to perform their duties with the utmost respect and dedication.

5. Collaborator

Narcissists that have a healthy sense of narcissism are selfless. They are aware that being a team player and being selfish are incompatible. They like working as a team. As much as they cherish their own personal accomplishment, they also value the success of the team. They are prepared to contribute rather than to receive or follow the lead of the other team members. A person with a developed ego sees it as part of their responsibility to assist their teammates in reaching new heights, and they are willing to step aside when necessary.

HEALTHY NARCISSISM IS TRANSFORMING REGULAR PEOPLE INTO POWERFUL LEADERS

The relationship between narcissism and leadership, according to Buffalo University research

One’s confidence and desire to improve oneself while also revolutionizing society are two examples of leadership attributes.

Not only does healthy narcissism encourage self-esteem and confidence, but it also fosters a desire to help others.

To the best of their ability, leaders carry out a purpose in the world.

Future leaders are likely to be created by healthy narcissism.

“Skill and confidence is an unconquered army.”

— George Herbert

TOO LITTLE NARCISSISM TAKES YOU NOWHERE 

A balance must be struck. Too much or too little of anything in the world is harmful; everything needs to be appropriated. Narcissism is being discussed, which can be deadly if it spirals out of control and manifests as grandiosity. However, it also causes injury when it is reduced. In terms of success, having too little or too much narcissism can both be pathological. A lack of confidence and low self-esteem are results of too little narcissism. When we lack self-assurance and a firm understanding of who we are, we become too afraid to succeed.

HEALTHY NARCISSISM VS DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISM

Narcissistic personality disorder patients are the majority of those who exhibit destructive narcissism.

How could one assess whether or not this narcissism is bringing out the best or worst in people?

The extreme kind of self-confidence that destructive narcissism frequently displays is grandiosity, which is a more fitting term. Healthy narcissism, on the other hand, manifests as a self-centered attitude that prioritizes oneself while possessing the assurance that comes with living in the world.

A healthy narcissist will strive for power and wealth, but a destructive narcissist will grow obsessed with it. He will do anything to acquire fortune and power, and in the process, he or she frequently harms other people.

Healthy narcissists never undervalue or disrespect people in the process of pursuing what they want in life. They never jeopardize their interpersonal connections in the name of self-interest. On the other hand, destructive narcissism demonstrates that it exploits others in the name of self-assertion and casts them aside.

The origins of trauma are where the majority of destructive narcissism emerges. They become who they are today as a result of their difficult upbringing. However, a healthy dose of narcissism enables the person to shape their thinking for the greater benefit. Traumatic childhood experiences undermine one’s genuine sense of self-worth and/or teach people they don’t need to be considerate of others. Healthy upbringing with encouragement for self-worth and reasonable boundaries for behavior toward others.

Transform your narcissism into a wholesome, self-serving form.